Commentators on an online post were shocked after a woman explained why she expects her boyfriend to pay to exchange her wide range of hair accessories.
in viral form reddit The post posted on Piercing r/AmITheA**, Redditor u/QueSerra5 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said she had a plethora of fun-shaped, brightly colored hairpins, headbands, barrettes, and side combs that even prompted her boyfriend’s indirect embarrassment To throw the accessories into the ocean.
entitled “[Am I the a**hole] For wanting my boyfriend to pay me for the hair accessories he threw? ” mail It has garnered more than 7,300 votes and nearly 1,400 comments in the last 10 hours.
The original poster wrote that she is 27 years old, and said that some people in her life, including her boyfriend, consider her attraction to hair accessories “childish.”
“He thinks I over-wear them and said they make me look like a teenager,” she wrote. “He was complaining about being too embarrassed to take me out or go anywhere with me because of my hair accessories.”
She continued, “He gave me an ultimatum that he wouldn’t go anywhere with me unless I stopped wearing these things, but I refused.”
Recently, the original poster said that her boyfriend invited her to his sister’s birthday party but added that he “had a heart attack” when she told him she was planning on wearing her hair accessories. The original poster also said after she refused to leave the accessories at home She made a shocking discovery.
“The next day I learned that he took my entire package and threw it overboard,” she wrote. “I was so angry that I completely unloaded it.”
She continued, “He told me to stop being childish and start acting my age.” I yelled at him asking him to pay me for the whole set and he said he can only give me colorless scrunchie[s] worn by women my age.”
“I got involved with his family and his mother offered to pay but I refused to let her and told her so [that] “It was her son who got rid of her,” she added. He kept refusing to say it wasn’t worth fighting for and that I should learn to step out of my comfort zone and try new things… His argument is that this affects his public image as well.”
In the January issue of slateAdvice column Dear Wisdom, a woman described her husband’s penchant for throwing away food, hand-painted gift boxes and other items that can be donated in the name of simplification.
Jenny Desmond-HarrisAnd The Slate writer for “Dear Prudence” replied that, aside from the environmental benefits of simplicity, getting rid of a partner’s property can be a major red flag, even in a 20-year marriage.
Desmond-Harris wrote, “It is not okay for him to throw things at you too…without your consent.” “This is a limit on theft, and I worry about what this custom says about his respect for you and your preferences.”
Respect is the cornerstone of all healthy relationships. On the other hand, disrespect often indicates the exact opposite.
earlier this year, marriage.com She listed 20 signs of disrespect in relationships and offered advice on how couples should deal with it.
Included in the list were Many harmful behaviors This includes devaluing opinions, belittling one’s partner appearance, mocking one’s appearance, weaponizing insecurities, and constant attempts to change basic personality traits.
During the comments section of the viral Reddit post, several Redditors said that a friend of the original poster exhibited most or all of these behaviors. and encouraged the OP to re-evaluate their relationship as a result of.
“[Not the a**hole]Redditor u/VixNeko wrote in the top comment of the post, which has over 13,000 votes.
“This man is not yours and he is the only one [who] He needs treatment for whatever is bothering him because this is not a normal behaviour. They continued, “I’m not obsessed with your partner’s fashion choices like that. You’ll hear this a lot, but I definitely think you should reconsider this relationship.”
Redditor u/be4ifallsaveme, whose response got nearly 3,000 votes, responded to the idea that the original hair accessories were “childish” and speculated about her boyfriend’s disruptive actions.
They commented, “It’s a ‘representation of your age’ to know your style and what you love and stand for.” “You sure are [not the a**hole]. “
They added, “His image is affected? Please, he is very immature.” “He acts like a kid after not getting what he wants, throwing it away[s] Tantrums and destroys things. It’s offensive, and red flags galore.”
In a separate comment, which has nearly 2,000 votes, Redditor u/Feeling_Ad_5309 explicitly told the original publisher to break up with her boyfriend.
“[Not the a**hole]. And please get rid of it “they started”. He destroyed the things you paid for 2. He refuses to pay you back 3. He doesn’t accept you for the things you love 4. He gives in to other people’s opinions of you 5. He doesn’t stand up for you but stands with them 6. His public image is more important to him than you being supportive [girlfriend]. “
“I repeat, please cast him,” they added.
NEWSWEEK I reached out to u/QueSerra5 for comment.